​

Self Love Atlas May 2024

Hey Reader,

Have you ever had a friendship that felt one-sided?

One that never really felt 50/50? Even when things were good?

Friendships where you were meeting them, not halfway, but 80 or 90% of the way, all the time.

Meanwhile, they were reluctant to give 10% back.

When I had friends like this in my life, my confidence was low.

I spent a long time pouring into them, trying to build the relationship and be a “good friend.”

But the feedback I got constantly made me feel like I still wasn’t enough.

I felt alone in their presence.

​

​

It wasn’t until I stopped and asked myself, “am I actually enjoying this friendship?” that I realized the relationship was taking more than it was giving to my life.

Friendship isn’t supposed to make you feel like you’re not enough. It’s supposed to be a place where you can be yourself, goof off, speak and be heard, listen and connect. Ask for help. Lean on one another. Tell stories and laugh. Encourage each other. And be there for each other when things are hard.

If your friendships don’t feel like that, let me tell you, YOU CAN have friendships that give as much as they take.

You don’t have to keep giving to people who keep asking for more, and never seem satisfied.

You can choose to give to people who want to give back.

In the last two years, my relationships have shifted a lot. I ended TWO 12 year friendships, intentionally filtered out “takers” and found new friends who inspire, encourage, and support me in all the ways I always hoped for.

To make this shift, I had to ask myself…

“How do I want my friendships to feel?” and “What kind of friendships do I want?”

​

There are other people in the world who want the kind of friendship you want, and would be happy to put in the effort to meet you in the middle.

If you surround yourself with those kinds of people, you’ll feel fuller, more confident, and way less alone.

But to find those relationships, you have to ask yourself…

Who in your life is capable of having the quality of friendships you desire?

And what would it take to start building a friendship with them intentionally?

Imagine how much energy you would save by giving 50% effort to them, compared to the 90% you’re giving to someone who keeps wanting more.

In my experience, it saves an unbelievable amount.

​

With love,

Morgan Rita Barbret

Certified Life Coach

​

P.S. Are you feeling stuck in a relationship that feels one-sided? I can help you start new friendships, improve the ones you already have, or build the courage to move on from relationships that are no longer working for you. Schedule a free consultation with me to learn more!

​

New Blog Post

Why It's Worth Asking For Help

Even if You Could Do it on Your Own

​
Preview:

Is it worth asking for help when you could do it on your own? Here’s a short story from when I was younger to answer this question.

“I can move this.” a kid version of me thought.

At this time, the dresser in my bedroom closet was about as tall as I was.

I knew my parents probably wouldn’t want me moving this alone. But I felt determined.

“If I could do this by myself, then why wouldn’t I?” I thought.

I clenched my jaw, planted my feet, and pushed as hard as I could.

​​​Continue reading →

​

​

Do you ever struggle to say no in friendships?

Saying no doesn’t mean you’re letting anyone down, it means you’re making a conscious choice about what you have space for in your life.

Click the button below to hear two questions that can help you build the skill of saying no.

​​Check out the Insta Reel →

MAKE YOUR OWN CUSTOMIZED SELF-CARE PLAN Having a list of simple and easy self-care tasks always helps me remember to fill my cup and keep my energy up! Want to create your own list? ​​​Get My Self-Care Tracker →

​

​

If you were forwarded this message, sign up to receive more like it every other week here. It’s free. I never spam.

You may unsubscribe or adjust your preferences anytime!

Self Love Atlas LLC, 21909 Lakeshire St, St Clair Shores, Michigan 48081